Dan Savage has commented on this thought-pattern in Savage Love, and his advice is something like "thank you for the support, but please keep getting married, and stay that way. It's when you Breeders divorce that hurts us!"

So, you know, fall in love, get married, and mean it.

And write angry letters to every representative you can think of.

Well stated.
Do you know what I'd like to see? I'd like to see how different this vote would have turned out if the following individuals weren't permitted to vote on it:
- people who have had a child out of wedlock
- people who have been married & then divorced
- married couples who have the ability/capacity/finances to adopt a child in need, but don't
Let's see how the vote turns out then!

I'm not sure if I'm making my point up there, but what I mean is that people are fucking hypocrites. So yeah, I agree with you.

It's like you try to explain the logic behind these decisions...and you can't...there is no way to. I guess the only explanation is that people can be so f-ing lame and interpret something (like the bible) into a hate-mongoring doctrine.

I feel you, for sure. I just have to keep coming back to the idea that the days of discrimination against gay people are surely numbered. Those Propositions are not going to be around forever. The tide is turning- if you look at the big picture from Stonewall (and before) to now, we have come such a long way. It will happen, and I think it will be sooner than it feels like right now. We have to keep the faith.

I like Jilly's response.
I don't get it either. Why do people care? It has NO effect on their lives and it just proves them to be mean and spiteful :(

I moved to Dallas not long after graduating college and becoming a newly minted taxpayer, a sunny-eyed youth looking to make it on my own. The first time I voted after graduating college there was a Texas state constitutional amendment on the ballot to ban gay marriage. I voted against it. It passed.

Needless to say, my eyes were less sunny after that.

Nothing like bad goverment to rob a young person's idealism.

You can be excited about your wedding, although I understand how legislation like this might change your idea of what a wedding represents. It's horrible that people continue to be so closed minded. I agree with Librarian Girl, things will eventually change. There will come a day when we will look back in horror, like we do now w/ the fight for civil rights and women's suffrage, and not understand how we ever denied these basic rights to anyone. I hope it's sooner than later.

As far as what you can do about it, you are doing it, keep talking about it. Stay passionate about it and keep the conversation going months after Nov 4.

It is sad and hateful, and hopefully people will realize, and realize soon, that we cannot continue to think we have made great progress in equality while systematically shutting out a very real portion of the population. It is promising that so many of us out there are already outraged.

This post makes me realize why I love you.