I wanted to co-sleep with Henry, Josh wasn’t sold, but before we had time to make the decision, Henry decided for us. From the time he was about 6 weeks old, he slept so much better not only in his own crib, but his own room. Even now he’s a very light sleeper, and very excitable. He slept with us a few nights last winter whtn he was very sick, on the third night we knew he was feeling better when any time either Josh or I would open our eyes Henry’s face would be about 2 inches away, wide awake and staring intently, waiting for his chance to ask “What doing?”
Copley is a different baby, completely. He loves to be with us, held by us, he doesn’t want or need his own space, or peace and quiet. This works out nicely, because we don’t have a good place for him anyway. We don’t want to put him in with Hen until he is older, since Hen is such a distracted sleeper as is, and the other two bedrooms are both on the first floor.
Josh and I knew from the get go that we wanted to cosleep this time around. We are more confident parents the second time around, and also, we are lazier parents. Having Cop within arms reach at night means I can pop a boob in his mouth and go back to sleep, it means we don’t have to get out of bed for diaper changes and soothing, it means nobody has to go fetch the baby when he wakes up at night.
When we brought him home from the hospital, we brought him straight into bed with us. Newborns don’t sleep much as is, but I found what little sleep I had in bed with Cop was restless and of poor quality. Cop ended up needing to sleep on an incline for a couple of months becasue of reflux, so this gave us some time to think about solutions.
Always the engineer, I knew to find a solution we must first nail down the problem.
I was getting poor sleep. Why?
Well, I could fall asleep, but I wasn’t falling into good deep sleep. Why?
I was afraid I’d roll over on my baby, and I’m not comfortable sleeping without my covers (a must for bed sharing).
So we’d need to find a solution that would allow me to keep my covers on my bed (for now at least) and give me my own space while keeping my kid close enough to reach. I considered a cosleeper, but thanks to my network of crunchy mama friends, we found a better solution.
We sidecarred the crib.
Not only does this satisfy my criteria for getting good sleep, this gives us a safe place to put Cop to bed by himself for his own earlier bedtime. It’s easy to nurse him to sleep then just push him over to his crib, and in the morning when my first alarm goes off I just pull him back to me, gently wake him just enough to get him nursing and then I can drift in and out of sleep for the next hour while he eats. When my second alarm goes off I can gently slide him over to Josh where they can snuggle until it’s time for them to get up with Henry. Then I can sneak out and get to work nice and early.
Everyone is happy, everyone is sleeping, and I feel quite clever, indeed.