I've been so impressed with Josh's mad mustache growing skills this Moember,well, franlky, I'm a little jealous. When Jill called me yesterday to recount her dream that I showed up at my wedding with a full glorious moustache a la Josh I got to thinking...

What type of mustache would I sport, if only I could?

What do you think?

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I spent lots of time tonight working on a collage first in Picnik and then in Flickr labeling all of the pictures... only to be thwarted late in the game when I learned the notes don't translate to the blog. You can click out on the picture and see my handiwork. If anybody knows how to do this (so that my note pops up when you roll over the picture I'm all ears)

The Twilight Books- I know, I know, but they sucked me in. Relish! Josh and I have had easy and delicious dinners every night this week. If you feel like a slave in the kitchen I urge you to check it out. You will thank me. Movember Help Josh kick ass (cancer)! Click here and donate today. Nancy's Hudson Valley Camambert This is my absolute favorite cheese of the minute. It is so rich and creamy, I think it tastes like a cross between butter and ice cream and it has this funny little aftertaste. Bin Wine Cafe in Bucktown is my favorite restaurant in Chicago so far. I love everything about it. Josh and I look forward to How I Met Your Mother every week. Equality and civil rights. Aria Pinot Noir- This sparkling pinot is a nice treat.

Sometimes I freak out a little bit about getting married. Josh does too; I think it would be unnatural and extraordinary if we didn't have moments of anxiety.

Last night we were sitting down for dinner talking about the things we were nervous about, and what we missed about living alone. It's funny, the things we miss are stupid and selfish- yet we both miss them. We have the same anxieties about the future, the same desire to remain autonomous.

After dinner we were playing Uno at the kitchen table, the whole time joking and laughing so hard tears were rolling down our faces.

I used to wonder why people would ever get married, women especially. Now I can't imagine- fears included- living without Josh. It is such a simple thing, being with this one person; living a simple life. Walk the dog, make dinner, do the laundry, it is routine and a little boring, maybe, but seldom unpleasant.

And at night, when we lay in bed drifting off to sleep, his skin feels like my skin.

I thought about it and thought about it, coming up with more than one way to wear this dress was tough- it is such a classic cut. But, I've come up with three "looks," I've snapped pictures of my outfits, accessories included, and I'm ready to go. I've already found two occasions to wear this dress in the last week, that twice as many as I found all last year.

My mom and I went to Bonsoiree for dinner on Saturday night to celebrate her birthday. It was delish, really spectacular. We've been on the fence about a caterer for the wedding, but I thin k dinner here has swayed us towards their catering. I broke out these purple booties, (are booties over? I'm terrible at keeping up with the fashion) and I always love an excuse to wear this little hat. It was my grandmothers and it's probably 65 0r 70 years old. The elastic is shot but the pailetttes are still in good shape.

This is a little bit of a cheat, since you can't see the dress under all that coat.

Last Thursday Josh and I went to an anniversary party for one of his clients. It was chilly, and I had hard hat hair so I broke out the Carmen Sandiego hat.

What can I say, I just love hats. I always looked forward to being the kind of eccentric old lady who wore whatever weird outfits she felt like with great big flamboyant hats. I've decided not to wait. The time is now.

You may be wondering why my sweet, baby faced Josh is suddenly looking like a 1970's porn star. I have just one word for you.

Movember

Josh is growing this 'stache to raise money to fight prostate cancer and bring awareness to mens health issues.

It's a great cause, and a rather glorious 'stache.

You can track his progress on his movember page.

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What are you waiting for?

I have such great pictures from last night but I'm off to pick my mom up from the airport, so pictures will have to wait. Have a fun weekend!

I am having hair restlessness. I want to change it, maybe lighten it, maybe chop it. I don't know what I want to do, but I have hair ennui. Something different everyday, but the constant in all of this is:

I am having bang envy.

Bear in mind, I haven't forgotten the unfortunate bang incident of '03.

Let this be a lesson to you, do not, under any circumstances and no matter how many dirty Grey Goose martini's you may have had, decide to give yourself at-home bangs.

Especially not whilst still under the influence of said martinis.

That said, I have learned my lesson, and I think the real problem with these bangs is that they were sort of cop out bangs. For bangs to look good you need to really commit.

Like my friend Jilly here.

Those are some serious bangs and super cute to boot. But I know I'm nowhere near ready for that much bang.

The particular bangs I would love are seen here, on adorable blogger Kyla Bea, before her new 'do. (Her new 'do is cute too, but I covet her old 'do)

I'm putting it to a vote. Let me know what you think in the comments. And don't be shy, if you think NO BANGS, please say so before I get to cutting.

Tired of growing increasingly frustrated every time I try on my clothes that don't fit I have decided to take action. Last night after work I packed up all of the clothes hanging in the closet that are currently too small (about half of everything I own) and put them in storage. I am finished crying over too tight jeans.

Sadly I can't afford a new wardrobe, but I can afford to change my perspective. Taking a page out of Whoorl's book (which she took out of In Style magazine) I've decided to shop my closet and take a fresh look at what I already own.

Step 1: Pick Your Eight Best Pieces

I went through everything that was still hanging and decided on my eight favorite items. Some of them are part of my "uniform," things I already wear everyday, and some of them are pieces that I rarely break out but should more often!

Blue Jeans

I may be cheating a tiny bit, but I'm including both my boot cut blue jeans (which I wear daily everywhere) and my skinny blue jeans. Girls with my particular shape have to be careful in a skinny jean. I bought mine to wear with my knee high boots. I have to have that extra bulk (from the boots) on the bottom or else I end up looking like a candy apple. I would have made a terrible hipster.

Black Jeans

These are also skinny and were also bought for the express purpose of pairing with boots. I have a pair in denim and I have a pair in a plasticized texture which make me feel very sexy while still covering it up.

V-Neck Burn-Out T-Shirts

I bought a few of these at Forever for about $13 and I have been living in them. They are long enough to make sure no muffin top spills out over jeans, they are thin enough to layer under sweaters or other tops and they are super soft and comfy against my skin.

Zebra Print Short Sleeved Sweater

This is a relatively new purchase, and I am loving it. The tunic length is great over jeans, it would also be good paired with a legging or a thick tight for a more risqué look. It is a nice weight and can be layered over a turtleneck for colder days.

Teal Sweater Dress

I bought this dress last year and have only worn it twice even though it is comfy and super cute.

Black Wool Dress

I bought this at Banana last year too, and it is the first non-special occasion dress I've ever really "invested" in. It has an amazing shape and structure when it's on (as opposed to on the floor). It's just a really classic dress with a bit of a retro feel which I really dig. Because I spent more on it then I normally would on a dress I've fallen into the habit of saving it for special occasions and really, it is such a versatile dress, I think I should get as much use out of it as possible.

Print Sweater Dress

I picked this little cheapy up at forever 21. I love turtlenecks in the winter, I dig the pattern on this dress and I like it worn both as a dress and as a sweater with jeans.

Flashy Top

I shopped this tunic top out of Tanya's closet. It is fun and funky and I think it deserves to see a little more action this winter.

Step 2: Lay Your Choices Out Where You Can See Them All

Looking at what I consider my favorite pieces I notice a shift in the way I've been dressing over the past year or two. I used to show a little more skin and now I like to cover up a bit more. Less cleavage, more structure. I like very utilitarian pieces that I can just throw on and go, and I am also aware that I've started wearing pieces that camouflage my midsection. (But I'm hitting the gym, so hopefully that little insecurity isn't here to stay)

The next steps are:

Step 3: Pick Your Basics

This is pretty easy for me. Monday through Friday I'm dressing for a steel mill, so I can really play around with my clothes on the weekends. Jeans, sweaters and t-shirts for day time make sure I'm comfortable running errands and the snazzier pieces I've picked for when I want to dress up a bit at night.

Step 4: Make a List of What's Missing

For me, what is really missing is a good pair of dark blue boot cut jeans that fit and a belt to pair with various sweater dresses. I'd like to be comfortable but I still would like to have a shape and not look like a sack of flour.

Step 5: Create Outfits- Shoes and All

I think this next step will be really fun. Like every girl who was a teenager in the nineties I've always dreamt of a closet like Cher's in Clueless. I think this is a good idea; to look at my 8 core pieces in a new way and play a little with some of the remaining items left in my closet.

Step 6: Choose a Handbag

To be fair I've never really been into handbags, but I need a new one for winter; the one I'm currently using is decidedly summery. I do dig clutches, and will try mixing and matching some of the ones I use less frequently.

Step 7: Accessorize

I am really lazy about accessories. I think that planning accessories for outfits ahead of time might be just what I need to change my ways.

Step 8: Snap the Looks
The idea here is that you can easily reference different looks for different occasions. I like it.

You'd think after two months I wouldn't do that anymore, but you'd be wrong. I dropped Josh off at the gym and took a different route to work and got completely lost in downtown Chicago.

I noticed that they were hanging holiday decorations and my first reaction was that it was too early for that nonsense. But...

This Saturday is November 15. My mom's birthday! She is coming for a visit and will be staying with Josh and I for a few days. Next weekend Jill is coming for a visit. The weekend after that is Thanksgiving.

So maybe it isn't too-too early for holiday decorations. It did put me in a rather festive mood, and that can't be a bad thing going into the cold weather.

Today is Veteran's Day. I would like to thank our veterans for serving our country, a job that not everyone (including myself) is up for. I would also like to thank the men and women who are on active duty, for their service to our country. Come home safe and soon.

I was on a serious roll this weekend, crossing items off my to-do list left and right.

The most exciting item we crossed off the list was: was sealing, stamping and mailing our wedding invitations.

Josh, bless his heart, didn't seem to find the task as anxiety inducing as I did.

Hopefully we didn't miss any typos.

Today I wanted to stay home and snuggle down and play some monopoly. Instead I spent my whole day out and about drinking champagne and eating cheese and watching football.

Which sounds awesome.

Until I tell you that we did all of that because we have no heat and we can see our breath in our living room.

So we didn't really have a choice but to go out and seek heat.

Blerg.

Josh and I are playing Monopoly, and he is looking a little peaked. I ask him if dinner didn't really sit well with him and he says "no, I've just been farted on a lot tonight."

And to that I say

"Fair enough."

He really is marrying a frat boy. I'm just sayin'.

I don't have a fun and light wedding post this week. In fact I haven't done any wedding planning, and I haven't even been excited about the wedding.

And I know why.

I'm sorry to belabor the point, but I am so upset about the passing about Proposition 8 in California and similar amendments in Florida and Arizona. I can't get excited right now about getting married, because in one night the rights of citizens in these states were stripped. Not to mention the citizens in states that had already passed similar amendments.

We can only wait and see if the 18,000 same-sex couples who married between June 16, 2008 in California will have their marriages invalidated.

In Florida Amendment 2 and in Arizona Proposition 102 also were approved and will amend the states' constitutions to exclude same-sex couples from marriage.

In Arkansas, voters approved a ballot measure that prohibits unmarried individuals or couples from fostering or adopting children effectively excluding gay and lesbian individuals and same-sex couples from the pool of adoptive and foster parents.

Why? Gay marriage is good for the economy. It doesn't minimize the commitment of or trivialize heterosexual couples in any way. It doesn't take rights away from heterosexual couples. And god knows there are children who desperately need homes and parents to love and take care of them.

Why can Josh and I decide to get married? We could get married tomorrow if we wanted to.

I guess I don't understand why people would go out of their ways to introduce this legislation that proactively targets a minority group. I don't understand how, in our country with the purported separation of church and state, we can change the constitution (at the state level, for now) to legalize discrimination. I don't understand how a state's constitution can be amended by a 52% vote. I don't understand why so many people, whose lives would be in no real way affected by such a decision would care so much that they would approve this legislation.

I don't know how we are supposed to go about our daily business and not be outraged by this, and I don't know what I can do about any of it.